Naomi Wolf’s newest book, Misconceptions, is a testament to her own experiences and prejudices about childbirth. Ms. Wolf shares her own culturally-learned fears about childbirth but fails to recognize that this is in response to 100 years of medical society propaganda. Although she has access to research and studies documenting the safety of homebirth and non-medical midwifery, she paints birth outside an institution as dangerous. She chose to give birth with obstetricians in high risk hospitals and had cesareans both times. I think the book could have been more aptly titled, “(Misrepresentations) My Pain Phobia and Justification for My Cesareans.”
I heard about this book through discussions on the internet which praised it for setting the record straight about childbirth. After looking at the book myself, however, I have come to an entirely different conclusion. It is simply another book, written to justify the unwarranted use of medical intervention and sequelae, unnecessary cesareans, and excuse bad maternity care decisions. Instead of accurately depicting birthing choices in America, Ms. Wolf used this book as a vehicle to promote her own opinions and discredit traditional midwives, homebirth, full-time motherhood and ecological breastfeeding.
Ms. Wolf places great importance on the book “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”, as though this is some highly regarded research book or the childbirth Bible. Sadly this book is written to promote the medical model of care and justify the many interventions foisted upon women who choose to have hospital births. She carefully goes through the many routine hospital procedures and explains the many risks and few benefits of each, yet she apparently did not believe her own research.
As a busy mom of 4, I often have the challenge of finding recipes that are tasty enough for kids, yet not the traditional chicken-nuggets-or-hot-dogs kind of menu my kids would eat everyday if they were allowed to do so. Add the convenience of using the crockpot, which is such an amazing time saver, and you’ve got the makings of a great recipe.
This simple seafood soup feeds 8-10 people, and has the Kenny children seal of approval. It is also fairly inexpensive, with ingredients that you can find in any grocery store. We usually serve it with homemade bread & a big salad.
Here are the rest of the secrets of successful single motherhood.
11. Learn from mistakes. What good are mistakes if you don’t learn from them? They are bound to come up again if you don’t correct the problem the first time. There are some things that are hard to grasp the first time around and we may not even realize that it is a problem, but if it comes around over and over again you should recognize that something is probably wrong somewhere. Learning and growing is a never-ending process so get a clue as soon as possible and save yourself a lot of aggravation.
12. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Even though you make mistakes don’t be too hard on yourself. Being human means that you won’t be perfect so accept it and move on. You will be much happier and you will give your self-esteem a positive break.
13. Forgive yourself. It is okay to ask God to forgive you or to ask others to forgive you, but it is more important that you forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself gives you freedom from guilt and pain and it helps you move on with life in a positive way. You can be your own worst enemy so forgive yourself and choose to be happy with your decision and the rest of your life.
How to spot a bad wine
When a waiter brings the bottle of wine to the table and offers you the cork, do you sniff it? What do you do with that splash of wine he pours into your glass? Why doesn’t he just deliver the wine you ordered, place it on the table and walk away?
This is your opportunity to ensure the wine is not only the one you ordered, but also that the bottle has not been ruined by improper storage or by wild bacteria and fungus. And since it takes only a sip to determine of the wine is good, that is how much is placed in your glass to start. But how will you know if the wine is good or bad? The first test is simple, smell it. If the smell of the wine does not invite you in for a sip it is most likely spoiled. Here are the most common things that make a wine taste terrible.
These are wines that have come in contact with wild fungus that produces a cbhemical named TCA. Depending on how long the wine has been in contact with the fungus, the aroma can be only faintly noticeable to striking. If you detect any mustiness, like your basement or wet cardboard, you have a corked wine. On the fainter side of the spectrum you may notice a wine you regularly drink is missing much of the aroma of fruit or berries, and that the nose is generally lifeless. Since upwards of 5% of wines using real corks can be infected, do not hesitate to send a wine back that does not seem right.